In both profiles he makes it clear that he is “a trans guy” and that people should “only message me if you’re cool with that.” Part of the need for this complicated negotiation is that OKCupid doesn’t allow users to identify as “transgender”—just “male” or “female.” The site has been in the news this week after cofounder Christian Rudder announced that developers secretly changed some people's compatibility ratings and removed profile photos to learn more about behavior on the site.While some have criticized OKCupid for showing people false or manipulated content as an experiment, the site's failure to accommodate transgender users may be a larger and more long-standing ethical dilemma.Like OKCupid, Mesh has an algorithm that helps determine compatibility. If you specify characteristics or preferences you don’t want potential dates to have (Republican, vegan, straight), Mesh will block those people from seeing your profile.

Sleidi said that she is "very gay," and some of her transgender friends are uncomfortable using OKCupid.

From the beginning, she knew it was important to allow people to identify as queer and transgender in their profiles.

When it comes to picking a site to use, keep in mind what you are looking for specifically so you can help narrow down your choices.

Transgender dating sites are a great way to find a spectrum of relationships, from casual to serious.

Winter La Mon is a 28-year-old transgender man who lives in New York City.

He joined the online dating site OKCupid six years ago, about three years before he transitioned.

La Mon prefers to be out about his gender with potential dates.

He thinks people will figure it out anyway when they meet him.

Most people who meet Colleen don’t know she’s transgender.

Typically, she discloses after she's gotten to know someone.

Categories for sexual orientation are straight, gay, bisexual, or queer.